And the mother if the year award goes to

[LFBB]

My wife speaking with her coworker, (another teacher) from the middle school.
coworker: my son came to me and told me this girl he's seeing wants him to buy flavored condoms (The kids are both 12).

wife: OMG, how aggressive this girl is, lucky your son trusts you enough to come to you.

coworker: I bought him a box of 1 dozen, if she gets him 1 time I'm done, so better be protected.

(the talk also ensued)

[KMac]

Unreal

[blaster]

Sickening.

[Ol Mucky]

The six grade/seven grade girls in my sons middle school were giving blowies (4 years ago)

That’s probably why the flavored.

I too am floored.

[Jughed]

I'm not sure what's sickening or crazy about this.

Kids of that age have sex and have been doing so for a looooooong time.


Outside of locking your kids up - you can't stop them. I don't see anything wrong with giving them what they need to NOT have babies.


I dunno about y'all, but I started in 7th/8th grade. (and for the church folks, most of my first experiences were at church youth group functions...)


I grew up with a girl that had three babies from 3 different daddies before she graduated high school - a parent buying her condoms or birth control probably would have helped her situation immensely. Because nothing was going to stop her from doing whatever/whomever she wanted.

[KMac]

I'm not sure what's sickening or crazy about this.

Kids of that age have sex and have been doing so for a looooooong time.


Outside of locking your kids up - you can't stop them. I don't see anything wrong with giving them what they need to NOT have babies.


I dunno about y'all, but I started in 7th/8th grade. (and for the church folks, most of my first experiences were at church youth group functions...)


I grew up with a girl that had three babies from 3 different daddies before she graduated high school - a parent buying her condoms or birth control probably would have helped her situation immensely. Because nothing was going to stop her from doing whatever/whomever she wanted.

I don't know how old you are, but I wasn't even thinking about it when I was 12/13.. 1979/80/81 just wasn't a popular idea.. Strange world we are living in.

[Still Learning]

My first full sexual experience I was 13 years old, 1966.

[Jughed]

I don't know how old you are, but I wasn't even thinking about it when I was 12/13.. 1979/80/81 just wasn't a popular idea.. Strange world we are living in.

I’m 51.

I don’t know anyone that wasn’t thinking about, attempting, getting a little something something the moment they were able.

My hormones hit like a freight train when I was 12/13 years old. Nothing could stop me from getting what I wanted. And plenty on the other side we’re willing.

Im just lucky I never knocked anyone up.

[KMac]

I’m 51.

I don’t know anyone that wasn’t thinking about, attempting, getting a little something something the moment they were able.

My hormones hit like a freight train when I was 12/13 years old. Nothing could stop me from getting what I wanted. And plenty on the other side we’re willing.

Im just lucky I never knocked anyone up.

maybe it's the area, I really don't know. I was playing baseball, football, basketball and golf. All my friends were. My best friend was the same way. We spent all our time together.. I honestly just didn't even think about it (seriously) until I was 15 or so.. Even when I was 16, we just fished and played sports. I just asked my wife and she said, "that was the furthest thing from my mind".

[erie skipper]

12-13? That's insane. I agree that we had no idea what sex was all about at that age and scared to death to even consider it. What a world, but I believe we can thank the media for this as well. Maybe it's all about small town America that I grew up in or maybe it was just because I turned 12 in 1962. But I still believe that children who have 2 parents and are raised within a disciplined atmosphere still wait to have sex until they are older; and maybe I'm out of touch but the people I know in our part of the world either don't know or won't admit that their children are sexually active at that young an age. I choose to believe that in most normal well adjusted families sex is still something that is not happening at 12-13 years.

[KMac]

12-13? That's insane. I agree that we had no idea what sex was all about at that age and scared to death to even consider it. What a world, but I believe we can thank the media for this as well. Maybe it's all about small town America that I grew up in or maybe it was just because I turned 12 in 1962. But I still believe that children who have 2 parents and are raised within a disciplined atmosphere still wait to have sex until they are older; and maybe I'm out of touch but the people I know in our part of the world either don't know or won't admit that their children are sexually active at that young an age. I choose to believe that in most normal well adjusted families sex is still something that is not happening at 12-13 years.

I agree. And to add, I think the attitude of the parents will reflect the choices their kids make/made. I have a very good friend who is a co-worker of mine. His children have been a dumpster fire. Why? Because he had the attitude that you can't control what they do all the time, so better provide it "safely" for them so they don't screw up. Well that blew up in their faces.

Most know I have a child that is an addict, and that was brought on by bad parenting as well. My ex felt it was a good idea to be his friend, instead of parenting him. Thought it was "cool" to smoke bud with him. Yeah, right..

I may not have been able to "control" my children's lives, but I certainly told them what was proper and acceptable to ME, their parent. I didn't allow my child to tell me what they were going to do. Did it cause conflict at times? Sure. But, in the end, it turned out okay. 3 out of 4 are successful and doing well.

[Coastboater]

I chuckle recalling my oldest son “coming of age”. He was 15 or so and broke up with a very cute gal. The next girlfriend wasn’t near as cute as the previous one, but….😛
After he got things in gear with her, they didn’t stay together very long and the girlfriends got progressively cuter.
Personally, at 12-13 I was mowing yards to support my slot car habit at the local Tom Thumb Raceway. Shooting off Estes rockets, playing sports. Senior high things heated up😀

[Smitty45]

I was definitely thinking about sex at that age . I asked my girlfriend if I could feel her boobs and she said , "I'm as flat as you are , or I'd let you " LOL , in 1974 .
Sex is just sex , not a sin , it's a fact of life . The social stigma placed on it by the church has caused more harm than good .

And just FYI , I had a sex life like a rock star , still do , just less of it , LOL . The stories I could tell , Ah , the good old days .

[KMac]

The social stigma placed on it by the church has caused more harm than good .

How so? By teaching or promoting abstinence an control over your own body? By teaching you that sex is a very intimate act that should be shared between people who are married? Or that it is a very serious thing that should not be ventured into due to the possible consequences? Social stigma? Nah.. What has done more harm is the attitude that sex doesn't mean anything. That we are not in control of our own bodies and desires. That we are no better than an animal in heat.

It is my opinion that this subject/topic is just like most things when it comes to being accountable. People just don't like the idea that life isn't about "you". That, one day, we will all be held accountable for our choices. Whether it's leading a life of immorality, dishonesty, etc.. We will all stand before our creator. And our choices will, and do, have consequences. And, I believe that is what bothers people, or the thought of that does.

[Jughed]

I agree. And to add, I think the attitude of the parents will reflect the choices their kids make/made. I have a very good friend who is a co-worker of mine. His children have been a dumpster fire. Why? Because he had the attitude that you can't control what they do all the time, so better provide it "safely" for them so they don't screw up. Well that blew up in their faces.

Most know I have a child that is an addict, and that was brought on by bad parenting as well. My ex felt it was a good idea to be his friend, instead of parenting him. Thought it was "cool" to smoke bud with him. Yeah, right..

I may not have been able to "control" my children's lives, but I certainly told them what was proper and acceptable to ME, their parent. I didn't allow my child to tell me what they were going to do. Did it cause conflict at times? Sure. But, in the end, it turned out okay. 3 out of 4 are successful and doing well.

So…

I came from a solid home, was raised with the church… I was a dumpster fire. I was controlled and rebelled hard, really hard.

My kids come from a solid home, not raised with the church.

Both of my girls were put on birth control early and have lax rules. They are free to have open conversations with us about everything.

No dumpster fires. One a 4.0 in college, second one applying to Ivy League schools this fall. My son is just fine so far…

And the best part - no unexpected grand babies.


I have friends from crap families that came out just fine, and friends from great families that are dumpster fires.


Cant make general statements about anything when raising kids.