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    I’m pretty much black and white on matters. Often times however I may not look at the bigger picture

    My son (14) has a very very close friend.
    there is a posse of 5 boys that do all their non-organized sports stuff together, and this one kid is probably his number 1 pal.

    But that boys mom.... I have no use for her. I have remained cordial to her and her husband when the situation arises. But that’s it.

    she has cornered me 2x at my house and a third time while in my presence somewhere else she has espoused her political type views.

    first time was over illegal immigration. I bit my tongue and smiled
    second time was over “churchies”
    third time again was churchies and abortion.
    (Her use of the term not mine)
    it’s mocking, hateful and condescending behavior




    I no longer do popovers at their house when the kids are there. I’m always “fishing” that night when it’s an invite.

    we just were invited to her husbands 50th at their home.
    mid August.

    black and white me says “Bo, you do not have to subject yourself to these type of persons”
    then I think of my boy and the friendship.
    then I know she knows I could give a shit about going there based on some of her snide comments.
    the husband and I aren’t pals, we just tolerate each other.

    thoughts?


  • #2
    I almost never go to parties I'm not comfortable attending. If you have no problem with their son and your son's friendship I wouldn't feel the need to attend. Or you could just use the old school repy, I never discuss religion or politics and be done.
    I can't help but think if I was a better person I could've been a dog. 🐕

    Chet
    Amesbury, MA (work in Boston)
    1987 2855 Bayliner Contessa SB
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    • #3
      Originally posted by Boat Bum View Post
      I almost never go to parties I'm not comfortable attending. If you have no problem with their son and your son's friendship I wouldn't feel the need to attend. .

      👍🏼

      the boys friendship isn’t dependent on me.

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      • #4
        Don't go.

        That was easy.

        If you want to do it the hard way, go, corner her, and tell her about your new love of crossfit or veganism. If she tries to change the subject, drag her back. Don't let up - be the Veganator.

        But best is... don't go.

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        • #5
          Tell her she makes you feel "uncomfortable", walk away
          Sanibel FL
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          • #6
            I'm not sure if she's pro or anti abortion, pro or anti illegal immigration, that said it doesn't matter much, if you're not comfortable with her pointed opinions tell her so. "I place myself in this social situation for the sake of my boy, and to foster a positive community involvement, but your behavior reeks of malcontent instead of neighbor. If you cannot keep your political opinions to yourself with me, I'll ask you to not address me at all."

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            • V_Thirteen
              V_Thirteen commented
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              Well, TBH, Boat Bum's version is the short form of LFBB's version.

            • Ol Mucky
              Ol Mucky commented
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              Boat Bum, that’s what I’m afraid I’ll do

            • Boat Bum
              Boat Bum commented
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              Maybe next time she says something you don't agree with just say, I'd argue with you but then we'd both be wrong; smile and walk away.

          • #7
            Originally posted by Boat Bum View Post
            I almost never go to parties I'm not comfortable attending. If you have no problem with their son and your son's friendship I wouldn't feel the need to attend. Or you could just use the old school repy, I never discuss religion or politics and be done.
            ^^^^^This^^^^^^.
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            • #8
              Or, bring a gun to the party------.
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              • #9
                I'd stay away from her if she wants to discuss politics or religion and is not on the same side of the issues. That's what the internet is for . 😊
                I'll tell someone exactly how I feel if they post something and I feel like engaging them online but I'm not going to argue with them or be put into a spot of them prying me for my feelings at a time I don't want to discuss things.
                Tell her to attend a riot or march where there are people that seek confrontation. 😊

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                • #10
                  Yep.. I just wouldn't go.. Explain it to your son, if he asks.
                  As of April 2nd, boatless for the first time in many years.
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                  • #11
                    I do not associate with people I don't like. If it is someone else's party I show up and avoid. If I can't avoid I leave. Life is already to stressful to add more to it.

                    Stress occurs when the mind overrides the body's basic desire to choke the shit out of someone.

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                    • Ol Mucky
                      Ol Mucky commented
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                      Lol

                  • #12
                    If she corners you, maybe try just asking her questions about her opinion, how she came up with it, where she gets her information etc. Don’t chime in an argue or question her opinion, but just see how much she can verify and justify hers?

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                    • jmike
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                      Because the MSM told her so and that has to be the truth!

                    • Boat Bum
                      Boat Bum commented
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                      She'll just parrot the talking points du jour.


                      What's du jour?

                      I don't know but they have it everyday...

                    • duckfish
                      duckfish commented
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                      Wait….. what?
                      Du jour is a kind of soup right?

                  • #13
                    Life's too short. If it doesn't effect your son's friendship, don't go.
                    Small town S. W. Ga./St. James Fl.

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                    • #14
                      I can be civil to most anyone.

                      Sometimes, if I’m caught with no escape, my version of civil includes telling them I’m deaf (1/2 true) and my hearing aids are in for service.

                      If I know what I’m in for, my most civil is to just stay away from them and not engage
                      Bob

                      S Central PA

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                      • #15
                        Me I would give my opinion to her on how I felt about her views. I love a good argument.

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